Why Sugar Coat It?

I apologize in advance, and I urge and encourage you to read it.  This may seem harsh, but I find myself wondering why we sugar coat things so often.  Excuses... We all make them.  Excuses are our crutch, our "reasons" why we can't be as successful as we want.  I heard something recently that has stuck with me.  I listened to people giving examples of things we get told in helping people live healthy lives.  It is  common that some people disappear on their wellness coaches, personal trainers and life coaches for time spans.  Many times they come back.  The discussion was on what we hear when people come back, and the responses that could be said but often aren't.

I will give you a few examples. 
1.  "I'm back!"
      "Where did you go?"
2.  "I've fallen off the wagon?"
     "What wagon?"
3.  "I'm standing in my own way."
     "Are there more than one of you?"
4.  "I'm stuck."
     "Are you on fly paper?"

I know the responses sound harsh to the comments, but let's think about this for a minute.  Do you want someone to help you that just enables you to continue on the same path you are already on?  Do you want to be encouraged to make up excuses for yourself?  I don't want that for my life.  Maybe instead of sugar coating it, we have the real conversations.  Dig and admit to ourselves why we are struggling rather than making another excuse or using a cliched phrase to explain it away.  It does us no good to gloss it over and not deal with the underlying issues. 

I realized that I have been making an excuse for myself on why some of the things I want to accomplish are not getting done the way I would like.  I could approach this one of two ways.  I am going to take the far less common route and own it, so I can keep moving.  What are you going to do?

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